Ho, Ho, Ho, Merry Christmas!

It’s December 8th and I have my lights up, Christmas cards out, tree up (and mostly decorated), all but one Christmas present bought and now it’s time to sit back, relax and enjoy the season….and wrap. I do have a lot of wrapping to do but that’s easy enough. It feels SO GOOD! I’m never ready this far in advance and the snow is looking glorious which means I’ll probably have to spend my days skiing. Oh, it’s going to be a rough December.

I had laser surgery on my eye on Friday. Not LASIK but PRK, which is similar but they take the entire cornea off and your eye regrows it so there’s a longer down time. It has required me to have my eyes shut the past two days and I’m supposed to be keeping them closed today as well but honestly, I’m bored. And rested. And ready to get back to life so I’m watching the Broncos and pretending like my eye doesn’t hurt.

Oddly enough I have a lot of jobs pending for December still. It’s usually slow but I have a few jobs that I’ve been cast in and am waiting to get an actual shoot date. The audition I felt that I did really well on is going to cast this week and shoot in early January so that’s been put off for a while. Which means I’m still in the running. I was just selected to be the female spokesperson for vasectomy advocacy. Yes, you heard that correctly. It’s a non profit and I’ll be featured on their website. Another statement I never thought I would say. Sounds fun, though, and realistically it is something more people should give some thought to.

I am also in the running for a sauna commercial. I heard they were shooting next week in Denver or Florida but no decision had been made on location yet. As of Friday they still hadn’t decided what they were doing so I’m just hanging tight at this point. I can’t imagine we could pull a trip to Florida together so quickly but it would be fun (and warm). As I think more about this shoot, I’m almost positive I used to do their commercials. I did a few of them when I first started working with this film company so it would be fun to get back into them. It’s a matter of sitting in a sauna looking relaxed, which now that I have my Christmas shopping done, I can do. Yay!

This time of year I’ve started thinking a lot about relationships. I have some really fantastic friends. I think I have more than most people and for that I am so blessed. I also have some friends that I’ve thought of as friends and have come to realize they are  friends of convenience. So let me explain. I’m an all in friend. You come to me and I’ll be there for you. I’ll come over and help you paint. I’ll find you a job. I’ll loan you money if you need it and I’ll be there to talk, day or night. I love to cross mix relationships. I love to introduce my friends to my friends in other groups. But, over the past couple months I’ve seen a lot of my “friends” take and take but never return the favor. Are those people really friends? Does that count as a friendship? After talking to one of my best friends, someone that I talk about time after time in my blog, he’s helped me realize that they really aren’t friends but friends of opportunity. They show up when they need something, under the pretense of friendship, and ask me for favors. These things are often business favors, asking me to work for free or for way under my value. And the strange thing is, I’ve done it. I’ve done it because I felt a bond of friendship with them but it goes on and I give but they never return it. In fact, they ask for more. And I’m glad because it’s taught me that sometimes I need to be tougher. My friends are all I have and I love them but once a friendship becomes one sided, it’s no longer a friendship. So this is what I’m going to focus on in the new year. How to balance my healthy friendships with my acquaintances and be able to differentiate the two.

So everyone, I hope you’re staying warm this cold December day. I hope you enjoy your holiday and surround yourself with  loved ones. I hope you get some good skiing or snowboarding time and I hope the Broncos win.

Love you all,

K

PS, sorry about any typos. I can’t see very well so I’m sure there’s a bunch.